Everyone wants a marriage that matters.
Everyone wants to go from GOOD to GREAT to EXCEPTIONAL.
Notice the stops on our Marriage Continuum (above).
Pretty simple, right?
You say, "I DO..." and you start your marriage life. Everything's great.
But at some point, we hit snags, challenges, obstacles, and in some cases, unthinkable tragedy. Maybe we started with good intentions and were on the cusp of a Great marriage... then boom.
Living The Dream...
One of the greatest challenges to a relationship is to capture all our Someday Dreams, share them with our partner, and put them onto a bucket list.
It sounds pretty easy, but most people need to spark their imagination in a completely different way.
Not through the left brain or right brain, but through our heart's eyes.
When we created the Vision exercises in Marriage With Purpose we started with clear instructions to open your heart... quiet your head-chatter... and feel what you want the future to become.
Fun Costs Money...
When two people look at the future through the lens of shared values, the money question is always paramount in the background.
Can we afford it?
Is this the right time?
How will this affect our retirement?
If we travel, where will we go and what will we do when we get there?
Marriage experts, not to mention every dating site on earth, emphasize 3 key aspects of finding your "happily ever after".
Oddly, it's rare to even hear the "L" word: Love. They usually focus on 3 factors for a successful relationship:
The divorce rate in the USA stands at 53% at the beginning of 2019... meaning lots of misery, emotional turmoil, and legal bills for millions of people. Good marriages can sink to Struggling in the blink of an eye, while others stay in the boringly Average range for years. Some steadily move from Good to Great.
The Year That Was...
Wow, this year blew by fast.
My wife, Jan, and I had an incredible year.
A true, high-energy, conviction-driven partnership.
December is a wonderful time to think back on your life, and look forward to fresh beginnings in the new year.
“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility to...
When you recognize that we all have strengths and we all have weaknesses, you start to understand the need to look closely at our differences. These differences usually show up in what we tell ourselves we want. Sometimes what we want is clear and obvious.
What’s the reason, the real purpose of two people signing up for a commitment that is to last a lifetime... in poverty and in wealth... in sickness and in health?
Of course, this question can be answered in a number of ways, depending on your point of view: Companionship, love, raging hormones...