“Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” ~ Robert Frost
When you recognize that we all have strengths and we all have weaknesses, you start to understand the need to look closely at our differences.
These differences usually show up in what we tell ourselves we want.
Sometimes what we want is clear and obvious.
But usually, our wants are well-hidden and require a certain amount of probing and prodding to bring them into the light of day.
The Good Fairy Test…
Our needs and wants are quite different.
We NEED food, shelter, safety, compassion, companionship, recognition, and emotional security.
We WANT money, a job that is emotionally and financially satisfying, to achieve our goals, nicer home, bigger boat, better car, jewels, challenges… great relationships… the list is endless.
The importance of knowing what you want cannot be overstated. If you don’t know what you want — and you leave your partner to only guess — you are doing a disservice to both of you.
If the Good Fairy were to pay you a visit… and asked you what you wanted… right here, right now… would you be able to give her the list of your heart’s desire? Or, would you hymn and haw around, talking in circles about this, that and everything else… but never get to the point?
Assume the Good Fairy is in front of you right now asking…
When we were doing the research for Marriage With Purpose we found the number one reason people separate is this simple phrase:
“We Just Want Different Things…”
This might be the case, but in a huge number of instances there’s no way to tell if this is true or not… because neither party has a clue what they really want, so they just parrot this hackneyed phrase.
Once you do the Vision and Values exercises in Marriage With Purpose, you will be able to pass the Good Fairy Test in 10 seconds or less!
Knowing what you want — a clear vision of all your Someday Dreams — isn’t just a good idea, it is the shortest path from a good marriage to a great marriage!
It’s the small differences in the way we think, feel and act that make a huge difference.
Think about it.
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