The Average to Mediocre Marriage:
The Definition of the words: Mediocre and Average:
1) Mediocre: Ordinary, middle-of-the-road, uninspired, undistinguished, unexceptional, unexciting, unremarkable, run-of-the-mill.
2) Average: Standard, normal, typical, regular, middle-of-the-road, unexceptional, unexciting, unmemorable, indifferent, pedestrian, lackluster, forgettable, amateurish.
Keyword: Satisfaction — TQ Score 50-70…
High end of the range: Strong, enjoyable, delightful, exciting, good.
Low end of the range: Ordinary, unexciting, lackluster, decent, acceptable.
Objective: Maintain a hard line between the pursuit of Excellence and the natural tendency of complacency trending to mediocrity. Make the concerted effort to move out of the merely Good range, and strive to move up towards GREAT.
Remember our simple definition: Intentional Excellence means that when you see a negative encroaching your performance, you take an immediate positive action to eliminate it. Intentional Mediocrity means that when you see a negative taking its toll on your life, you do nothing.
Recommendation: Move your score up into the 80-90 range by focusing on Clarity of Values… Clarity of Vision… and Clarity of Roles. Do the work in Marriage With Purpose and transform this Clarity into pure Conviction… absolutely Commitment… and the Courage to make your marriage the action adventure it was meant to be.
Worst of the Best… Best of the Worst…
What does “average” mean? To some people “average” can be considered “the Best of the Worst” or to others it means the “the Worst of an Best.” Either way, having a marriage based on mediocrity and settling for mediocrity is still an extremely dangerous place to be.
If you are willing to settle for trying to maintain an Average/ Mediocre marriage, you may soon find your relationship struggling — perhaps even further falling into the Toxic marriage range.
This marriage reflects the vast marriages out there — maybe a good 60% fall into the Mediocre to Average to Good range where the keyword is SATISFACTION. You are merely satisfied, not really happy, with your financial situation… your career… your kids education… your business interests… your community interests… your friendships.
Little in your life rises to the exceptional. There is no WOW factor for what you do or accomplish.
You are going through the motions looking for a way up or a way out.
Maybe it stems from a values conflict, or you and your spouse simply want different things in life. But each day you feel like you are just trudging along, making little progress on achieving your hopes and dreams.
So you learn to settle for what you have, fearing that if you extend your reach, what little you do have will slowly slip out of your grasp.
Wake up! You cannot equate happiness with mere satisfaction.
You can choose to be happy, or you can choose the status quo. You can rock the boat a bit and quickly move up towards happiness, or you can sink further into the quicksand that stifles your very being.
Think about the above definitions for Average/Mediocre. Is this pretty much how you feel each day: Ordinary, average, middling, middle-of-the-road, uninspired, undistinguished, indifferent, unexceptional, unexciting, unremarkable…
WOW, kind of underwhelming isn’t it?
Left to its own natural “decay rate”, marriages described as “unexciting and indifferent” simply do not survive the test of time. However, it is a relatively easy path from here up to a Great Marriage.
Yes it takes work and understanding, but the rewards far outweigh the effort!
“Well married a person has wings, poorly married shackles.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher
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