Success In Marriage Inspiration – 2 Edifying Principles
Success In Marriage Inspiration
2 Edifying Principles
This would be number 2 in what I am terming our “Success In Marriage Inspiration” series. “How many are there in this series?” you ask. Honestly, I am not sure… but we will just keep moving forward!
I can tell you that I want these to be…
Brief enough to get right away,
Inspirational enough to cause an internal “I like this!” response,
And helpful enough to become meaningful when applied.
As we begin, allow me to share an original “success in marriage inspiration” quote with you:
On Shared Delights…
Shared delight in marriage
is a purpose to affirm,
a practice to repeat,
and an encore to applaud.
© Lee Wise
Success In Marriage Inspiration
Edifying Principle # 1
Two key words to serve as memory joggers for our first success in marriage inspirational principle:
Appreciating.
And Downplaying.
Our main success in marriage point is…
“Appreciating what I do well
in the face of what the other does better —
and doing so without downplaying either.”
This involves a healthy sense of dual affirmation. I can affirm what I do well while affirming what my wife or husband does better.
As I am doing so, however, I need not degrade myself or downplay the qualities associated with the other person.
Before the Lord we recognize the nature and quality of our talents, gifts and abilities… and applaud both.
Jesus distributed the gifts, motivations and abilities — and we affirm and applaud both.
Our goal is to win: to win in love. We want to win in love because winning in love is a critical love factor as we strive for success in marriage before the Lord.
One more time for review: success in marriage means…
“Appreciating what I do well
in the face of what the other does better —
and doing so without downplaying either.”
Success In Marriage Inspiration
Edifying Principle # 2
Our main success in marriage point here is…
“Reinforcing habits that heal
and breaking habits that make healing necessary.”
Praise… it heals.
Forgiveness… it heals.
Encouragement… it heals.
Affirmation… it heals.
And you also know and affirm these sad truths:
Constant criticism… it hurts.
No forgiveness… it hurts.
Little or no encouragement… it hurts.
Being very shy in the “affirmation arena”… it hurts.
I realize these things.
You realize these things.
And our marriage partners realize these things.
May the Lord give us the grace to always…
Lean in toward all that heals,
And lean away from all that hurts.
One more time for review: success in marriage means…
“Reinforcing habits that heal
and breaking habits that make healing necessary.”
Success In Marriage Inspiration
2 Edifying Principles — Reflections
In your reflecting on these very brief points relative to very important success in marriage principles, what immediately comes to mind? And before the Lord, why do you believe that might be so?
Along the same line of thinking, do any action steps come to mind that it would be good to take in your world?
When you think of the terms “appreciating, downplaying, reinforcing, and breaking,” what do you find yourself thinking?
Success In Marriage Inspiration
2 Edifying Principles — Your Take Away
“My one positive, affirming, “success in marriage inspiration” takeaway for today is….
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